by Rebeca Krones
As ActionCoach Bob Britz’s Market Development Manager, I go to a lot of networking events. It’s true that mixing with other business owners and influencers can grow your business- why would we all be going to these networking events if that weren’t the case, right?
Unfortunately, there’s an important component lacking in almost all the events I go to: Giving. That’s right, I often find myself in conversations where I’m just trying to be sold to. “All this person wants is to receive my business” I say to myself. “They’re not really listening to whether I need what they sell or not.”
It’s odd when you think about a room full of people in which nobody is planning on buying anything- they all just want to sell you something. When you think about it, if nobody came to the event with the intention of buying anything, then how will anything get sold?
I believe that instead of trying to push your agenda, you should listen to the person you are speaking with closely. In five or so minutes, get to know a little bit about who they are and what their business is. Interestingly, you may find that even though they may not need your service specifically, you know of someone who could help them with their particular dilemma. That’s right- instead of selling them your product or service, give them a referral to someone else.
This achieves many positive results: first of all, you create good-will. This perfect stranger will really appreciate your helping them, and the person you just referred will really appreciate the potential business. Secondly, it creates incentive on the part of the person you are speaking with to help you. What goes around comes around. When you create a positive halo around yourself, it’s amazing how others want to help you succeed. They remember you, they speak highly of you, and because they now have your and your business in the front of their minds, they will refer others to you.
It’s not a straight line to results, nor do you achieve them immediately like when you sell someone that same hour at a networking event. But this mindset has the potential to generate far-reaching and much more powerful results that benefit you. You just have to start first. Put your foot forward and the next time you meet someone at a networking event, think about what they truly need and if you can help them in any way.
If you change your focus from receiving to giving- that is, putting others’ interests above your own and adding value to their businesses- that networking event will have truly been worth it and you will get way more out of it that you ever thought possible.




